I realised during the pandemic that I really like people!! I missed seeing other people; on trains, shopping or on the school run and talking to them, finding out small gems in their life. Rich is always saying that I will talk to anyone and it's true, I really do enjoy getting to know other people. So when the pandemic hit and suddenly we can't meet up, it was very easy to reject the communications that were on offer. Chatting online, on the phone, joining in with quiz nights organised virtually and walking when we could with one other.
I have realised that I haven't fully gone back to the way I was because the world hasn't gone back and never will to a certain degree. So I wanted to focus on connecting to yourself, others and the world around you. Take time out for you and listen to what your mind and body wants and needs. Don't put everyone first as it only means you start to feel down and a little lost. That is you shouting out "what about me?" Your confidence will soar when you spend some time on you and what you need, simply because you feel happier and calmer and ready to take on the world!
Most of us are naturally herd animals, enjoying being with others and socialising together. It doesn't have to be a big group and sometimes 1 other person helps to rebuild our connections and strengthen our bonds. When we are giving and being wanted by another it helps us to feel loved and releases our happy hormones which in turn help us feel more confident and yep, you guessed it feel more able to take on what life throws at us. When you feel down, talking to someone helps, it does share the load and allows you to feel more confident.
The world around you could mean so many different things depending on who you are and what you do. For me it is animals and being outside. It is looking after the planet and enjoying our natural world. Without being able to go outside and spend time walking, riding, biking, running or climbing I would feel pretty miserable. This connection to the outdoors gives me the freedom to breathe, to think, to re-boot and be ready to take on the world. When I have had time outside I feel calm, confident and in control of my life.
So when I say Connect not Reject, it is a three-pronged approach; to yourself, others and the world around you. This would then lead to a lifetime of knowing what you need and when you need it, to feel more confident and able to get out there and live your best life.